https://www.thecut.com/2019/12/megan-phelps-roper-on-her-new-book-unfollow.html

This whole piece is really good, but this just jumped out at me:

«…you don’t find that kind of community outside of the military or cults. You don’t find that intense sense of fraternity, and I really broke down realizing that I’m never going to have that again.»